I have a 6 year old kid.
And he's impulsive and dirty. Concentrated and sparkling.
Last night, he decided at his 8pm bedtime that he really wanted
to make a life-sized paper collage self-portrait, holding hands
with a robot, jumping out of the wall. Naturally. Why not?
So, I let him do it.
Waking up was hard this morning, but then again, we had a giant
bespectacled boy (glasses made out of Post-It Notes) and his mechanical
friend staring at us from their stuck on place (legs bent 3-D to
demonstrate the "jumping out of the wall" part) while we got ready for
school. Totally worth it.
Today, he sat me down to listen to his carefully prepared
proposal for why he should be able to buy an umbrella from the school
store:
"Mama. The rainy season is coming - didn't you hear the thunder
last night? The umbrellas are only $15 for me to buy. If I have my very
own, you won't have to share your Congo President umbrella [this is
true, I do have one of these] with me."
Okay. You can have an umbrella.
And, then, with barely a breath in between, moved on to important
discussion #2: Why he should be able to buy school lunch two times a
week vs. only once. ("I would be such a happy boy if I could have
macaroni on Tuesdays AND pizza on Fridays.") I wasn't such a pushover
on this one.
Have I mentioned his fingernails? They are gross. I try to clip
them short so that all of that dirt can't just sit there. But, every
day, he comes home from playgrounds and soccer fields and tether balls
and badminton racquets and his nails are just horrible.
One time, I heard someone say that little boys - around six years
old - have a "wet puppy" smell. At the time, I though that the
statement was somewhat sexist or cliched. But. It's true. I make him
bathe - often! With this slightly-absurd, S
hea Moisture Organic Raw Shea, Chamomile, and Argan Oil
beautiful, natural children's all-purpose soap that I can't resist.
But, each night, I tuck him in and breathe in that slightly dirty puppy
smell.
My boy is a crazy
Risk
genius. Or, at least he thinks he is. He thinks he's invincible. He
can play that game of world domination with the complete confidence that
he will win. Even when he has no idea about any of the rules. It's
very bad when playing Crazy 8s or War. Something more cut and dry. If
he actually does lose, it's a tragedy of shaken sense of self. Sadness
for hours.
This child can glare better than anyone I've ever met. In my
family, we call it the "Flynn Look." He's particularly adept. I'm
worried about how it will look on a 14 year old.
Homework. As a grown-up first grader, Eli has homework. He
spent the first week being terrified of it. Now, I find myself being
totally confused about how my little kid can whiz through word games and
book reports without my help (or not much).
Sometimes (well, a lot of times), I wonder what growing up abroad
will do to him. Most of my friends grew up somewhere other than the
United States. They are a giant lovely mess of ideas and experience and
aspirations. I want that for him. I notice that he is already
confused about "home." If someone asks him where he's from, he says
"Seattle." Which is where he was born, but not where he most recently
lived, and even I don't really know where he's from. Is this good or
bad? For me, I love the ambiguity right now. But does he and will he?